How can there be laughter,
How can there be pleasure,
When the whole world
Is burning? When you
Are deep in darkness,
Will you not ask for a lamp?
-The Dhammapada
I have been mulling this quote over for two weeks, but found that it had a very profound effect on me in relation to a workshop that I recently attending about secondary trauma. Secondary trauma, sometimes called compassion fatigue or suvivor’s guilt or vicarious trauma, is often reserved for people within the helping profession, but the workshop asserted that this view is limited, that everyone, by virtue of living on this planet, witnesses trauma. The presenter, Laura van Dernoot Lipsky (author of Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self while Caring For Others) was dynamic, informative and challening (in a delightfully empathetic way).
I am reading her book with three minds, or so it seems, as I process how do these ideas affect me (both in my personal and professional lives), how do, or could, these ideas affect my colleagues in the helping profession, and how do, or could, these ideas affect my clients?
I am often struck by the magnitude of trauma (in this case, secondary trauma) that our society experiences on a daily basis. How many of you have read the news of the Egyptian uprising this weekend and had a glimmer of concern for the people involved in the protests? How many have heard of local news, like car accidents, or joggers being attacked in parks, or the budget cuts hitting our state and local governement? Just this week I have specifically read a story about a whale with a broken back, a dog escaping his abusive owner only to get hung up on the fence by his chain and strangling to death, and a woman guard killed while doing her job. And these are just stories I read, what about all of the people that we come into contact with during the week who are struggling financially, emotionally, relationally, etc.? How do these stories, these experiences impact our lives? Perhaps there are some who are immune to these experiences of trauma, but I imagine that, more often than not, they affect us in profound ways, ways in which me may not even be aware of on a conscious level.
In thinking about my worth with clients, this line “I had absorbed and accumulated trauma to the point that it had become part of me, and my view of the world had changed” stuck out to me. For those who have sat in sessions with me, you might recognize my go-to phrase, “where did that come from?” as we explore our belief systems and the origins for much of our behavior (which I believe comes from our early life experiences and how they shape our worldview now).
I feel as though we often wait too long to address the affects of accumulated trauma in our lives. How often do we get to the point where we severely identify with the Dhammapada quote above? Where we wonder “how in the hell can anyone be enjoying this tv show about crime?” or “how can I even get out of bed today with all of the crap going on in the world?”
van Dernoot Lipsky creates a framework for working with, what she coins trauma stewardship, and while I won’t regurgitate the whole book here, what stuck with me was this mindfulness approach with the idea that “nothing has to change int he world for us to transform our own life experience.”
This transformation of our own life experience can be profound, and I am humbled to get to experience a profession where I can bear witness to other people transforming their own experience. But this book also inspires me to continually exploring and transforming my OWN experience, as a healing professional and as a person living on this planet. That despite the darkness that I might experience, it is important to ask for a lamp to light my way.